So today I turn 45 years old.  I’m not usually affected by birthdays, as they just seem to come and go and blur together. But 45 seems like a midway point to me. If I am fortunate to live until I’m 90, then I have lived half my life and still have half my life ahead of me.  It’s hard to wrap my brain around the idea that for all the living I have done, I may have that much more in front of me.

As many of you know, my life has been anything but dull. I guess life is that way for most of us. But I am so thankful for each and every part of my life because it is all of those collective experiences, good and bad, beautiful and scary, brutal and lovely, that have led me to where I am. And the older I get it seems the more I realize I have to learn. I am continually humbled by the world around me, the people that love me, and the opportunities I have been given.  And after losing loved ones, battling cancer, and going through some of the most challenging days of my life, I have learned how much I love being here. I love being on this planet. I love the life I have been given. So today, as I take time to pause and reflect on the first half of my life, I want to share with you 45 kernels of wisdom, truths, and valuable lessons that my years on this earth have taught me. Because after all, this earth is just one big classroom and until our last breath, there is always something we can learn. Cheers to 45 more wildly amazing years!


  1. Friendship isn’t based on proximity or the amount of time spent together, or how often you talk. True friendship transcends time and space. It’s a connection of the heart and soul.
  2. When you are feeling down or depressed try doing something for someone else. I promise you will feel better.
  3. If you can be alone with yourself and be happy, you will be able to find happiness in any situation.
  4. Hair grows back.
  5. God does give you more than you can handle. It’s His way of showing us that we need help, we need others.
  6. Music is healing for the soul. Play it loud. Play it often. And sing at the top of your lungs, no matter how bad your pitch.
  7. Steep yourself in gratitude. Lack of gratitude turns into entitlement.
  8.  It takes a village. You really can’t do it alone.
  9. Listen. Listen. Listen. Shut-up and LISTEN.
  10. You are stronger than you can ever imagine. You have the scars to prove it.
  11. You never know how deep and raw and scary love can be until you become a parent.
  12. Everything in moderation, except love and heroine.
  13. Get out of your comfort zone, take risks. That is when you will grow and change.
  14. Unconditional love is the single greatest gift in life, yet the hardest to find.
  15. Sometimes you have to jump, even when you don’t know what is down below. It’s called faith.
  16. We all have a purpose. It may change over time.  Our job is to continually realize and live in our purpose. When we do so, it’s like a beautiful waterfall – It’s flows effortlessly.
  17. You only have one body. Take care of it.
  18. It’s the simple and mundane things in life that bring us the most joy. A rainbow after a thunderstorm, a house full of playing children, laughing until your stomach hurts. These are sacred moments.
  19. It’s ok to be angry, but don’t stay angry.
  20. Forgive yourself. Learn from your mistakes and move on.  
  21. A messy house means you are too busy living life to clean it.
  22. People are always more important than things.
  23. Be in relationship with people who are different than you. Different ethnicity, different class, different education level. You will quickly understand we are more similar than different and that we are all connected. You will be richer for it.
  24. Travel as often as possible.
  25. Money can’t buy you happiness but debt will bring misery. Live within your means.
  26. The most important gift you can give another human being is to show up as your authentic self.
  27. A smile can make someone’s day.
  28. Nature is God’s whisper to us that He is ever present. Quiet yourself and listen.
  29. Every action has a consequence. Be thoughtful in your decision-making.
  30. When someone is suffering or sick or mourning from the loss of a loved one, always show up. It doesn’t matter how. Bake a loaf of bread, call them, give them a hug. But show up!
  31. Always admit when you are wrong and apologize. Apologies are a sign of strength, not weakness.
  32. Have champagne in the middle of the day.
  33. Be true to yourself. It does not matter what other people think.
  34. Time really does heal. When life seems too hard or too dark or too scary, just give it time. It will get better.
  35. Be STILL
  36. Listen to your intuition. It’s almost always right.
  37. Forgiveness is as much for you as it is for the person you are forgiving.
  38. Share your mistakes and faults with others. It helps people know they are not alone.
  39. Always choose kindness over hate, choose love over fear. You will never go wrong.
  40. You may not be responsible for your pain, but you are responsible for your healing and happiness.
  41. Open your home and your table to others. It feeds the soul.
  42. Face your fears head on. Don’t miss out on life because you are too scared to live it.
  43. Don’t put God in a box. God IS limitless, grace-filled love.
  44. To love someone, you must love yourself first. Spend time with yourself. Nourish your spirit. And then you will have so much love to give to others.
  45. Stop making plans and start living in the moment. Hold on to your seat and be prepared to be surprised.
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